Most days I have at least one moment of wondering what God was thinking when He gave me these amazing kids. I trust Him, I do, but I sure do feel stretched through this mom gig. It’s wonderful and fulfilling one moment and defeating the next.
The ups and downs and all arounds can make me feel like I am losing my mind. I mean HOW can one person lose their shoes three times a day?! And WHY do we have a battle every time I make soup? Just try the soup! Maybe you’ll like it. And do not get me started on what it takes to get out the door on the days we have an early morning orthodontist appointment or co-op class.
I love these kids. I wanted these kids. They make me smile and cry in the same minute. Motherhood is so filled with peaks and valleys that one can wonder if she’s going to get motion sickness from all the changes in altitude.
The good news is that there is joy in all of it. While we can’t always change the lost shoes or the meltdowns in the driveway, we aren’t stuck with feeling like it’s too much. We moms aren’t victims of our lives, we are victors! It’s all in the way we look at things.
We moms aren’t victims of our lives, we are victors!
5 Things to Do When the Kids Are Driving You Crazy
1. Open your eyes to the beauty. No matter how hard a child is crying, there’s just something cute about it. Instead of stressing out over tears, enjoy their creativity of expression. In those moments when you think, “This is too hard,” take a look at the gifts you have been given in the chaos. There’s color and life and beauty all around you. There’s beauty in your child, your husband, and your home. Or look at the sky . . . there’s ALWAYS beauty around you.
2. Relax. Do you ever notice that most of the time we get upset it’s because our personal agenda isn’t being met? And so often those things we want done don’t really need to get done. Take a step back, slow down for a sec and relax. Take a few long, slow, deep breaths and let your heartrate slow down. We get all worked up over little things that don’t matter. That only makes the struggle worse.
3. Stop complaining. Women. Love. to. Complain. What if you fasted from complaining about ANYTHING for a week? Would that be hard for you? When a friend challenged me to try this I thought I wasn’t much of a complainer so it wouldn’t be hard at all. Was I wrong! I found myself constantly stopping myself from teeny fusses and I was shocked at how often I did it. Once I taught myself to stop complaining I noticed that my attitude about how hard my life was changed too. Sometimes the problem is in how we see it more than what’s actually happening.
4. Thank your husband and kids. Do you say thank you when your husband or kids do something helpful or kind? Looking for things to thank them for helps you adjust what you’re watching for. If you are looking for trouble you’re sure to find it, but if you search for things that are praiseworthy you will find that too! Even the smallest kindness, no matter how microscopic, when noticed can be a boost to a child (or a husband!).
5. Read the Bible. I saved the best for last. There’s nothing like a Bible verse to help you out of a slump or feeling frustrated or upset. Read a verse or two every morning, have a Bible handy to pick up when you’re losing control of your responses. When I was going through a really rough time a few years ago, I made a list on my phone of verses that encouraged me and now I have it to look at anytime I’m feeling discouraged again. God’s Word is right there ready to lift you up!
Motherhood is a series of challenges and no matter how well you’re doing there will be low points that make you want to pull your hair out. That’s less about your kids issues and more about yours. Follow these 5 simple steps and you can be on the road to sanity in no time.
Phil 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Lisa Pennington knows how to get up after losing her balance, even with a full house, a not-so-full bank account, and never enough energy. In her latest book, she offers readers:
*Strategies for finding balance in marriage, motherhood, and bad moods
*Playful yet biblically based tips for turning hard days around
*Inspiration for shaping obstacles into opportunities
*Ways to respond to irritations with gratitude
*Enthusiastic encouragement for living out God’s purpose.
For every woman who wonders if her satisfaction in life will ever match her dreams, Pennington has real-life answers full of hope and humor.
Lisa has a passion for helping women find JOY! She is the author of Mama Needs a Do-Over and Tightropes and Teeter-Totters.
She loves her Texas country life with her CPA, receipt-loving husband of 30 years and their nine children, some of whom have left home and made their mama sad. She has homeschooled all of them and hopes to someday have grandchildren she can cuddle and share the love of Christ with.
On her blog, The Pennington Point, Lisa shares her passion for life through home décor, natural health, travel, parenting tips, and shopping. She tells it all, letting her readers be a fly on the wall of her life.
Lisa has been a contributor for Thomas Nelson blog, The THSC Review, Hip Homeschool Moms, Relevant, and Crosswalk.com. She speaks at women’s groups and conferences and would love to come share the joy of living for Jesus with your group!