J.C. Penny’s isn’t a great place to start a fight with your husband, come to find out. When we realized our increasingly tense voices were garnering the side eye from more than one customer, we high-tailed it out of there. There was only one place to go: the minivan.
It was a cage fight in the minivan. Don’t tell me you’ve never had one.
Enclosed in the seemingly soundproof vehicle (in order to have a minivan cage fight, you must first pretend your minivan is soundproof), we allowed our voices to raise. There may have been some slaps on the dashboard and stomps on the floormats, too.
Yep, it got ugly real quick.
What started the brawl? Just your run-of-the-mill “you aren’t paying attention to me” “well, you’re too busy for me” “because you’re engrossed in work” “like you look up from your schedule” “I’m doing the best I can to hold everything together” “are you saying I’m not running myself ragged” kind of fight.
You’ve had that fight, too.
Because we all do. We run, run, run the race of family life and work and soccer games and homeschooling and ministry and volunteering until all of the sudden WHAM! We hit the brick wall. And our spouse is usually standing in front of that brick wall, getting squashed by our frustrated fatigue.
And it’s there, bouncing off the wall bruised and broken, that we start to look around and wonder, “What in the world am I doing here, and what’s it all for?”
After a good 30 minutes of yelling, we finally got to that question. Midway through our lives, we looked at each other thru tears and gasped, “What are we doing? Where are we headed?” And we didn’t like the answer.
What should we be doing? What needed to change? We each came up with half a dozen different, albeit small, changes we wanted to see: our relationships, our family, our ministries, our schedules. But there was something looming larger. A calling we had stifled for years that God wouldn’t stop shouting in our ears.
“We should be adopting now,” David put words to our hearts’ cries.
“I told ya’ so.” Just couldn’t help myself.
You know that feeling. That sinking knowledge in your gut that God wants to drag you deeper into His will.
How? Where? Could we? How can we pay for it? Would our family survive such a change? Do we have what it takes?
So many questions. So many worries. So many sleepless nights.
We took one small step at a time. We asked friends who had adopted before. We followed the path down one suggestion to the next. We kept our minds and hearts open and notebooks and phone at the ready.
We learned more than we wanted to about the need. We learned more than we imagined about God’s grace.
You will, too. God will show you, each step at a time, the ugly He makes beautiful, the painful He heals, the scary He makes bright. He gives courage and assurance.
He makes His calling beautiful in you and in your work for Him.
And just as we joyfully welcomed two of the most beautiful children we’d ever seen into our wild and crazy family of six, you, too, will excitedly celebrate God’s miraculous blessings on your ministry.
All because you were willing to cage fight for Him.
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In Rocking Ordinary, Lea Ann Garfias comes along-side you like a true friend and shows you how an ordinary life can be lived with extraordinary influence. A gifted teacher and storyteller, she meets you exactly where you are — in the everyday, messy, stressful, kids screaming, laundry piling, everyday life, and encourages you, loves you, and roots for you as you begin rocking your ordinary.
Lea Ann Garfias is the author of Rocking Ordinary, Homeschool Made Easy, and Homeschool High School Made Easy. Besides author,, Lea Ann also bears the titles homeschool mom, soccer mom, professional violinist, and wife of a hot Latino. She has remained madly in love with her husband of over two decades, David Garfias from Peru. They live with their six hilarious children in the Dallas area.
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