As a mom of both young kids and older ones, I’ve learned how important it is for my children to find good friends. It’s been said that we are most like the five people we spend the most time with. This is especially true for our kids. Kids pick up characteristics they see. They repeat what they hear. Of course, this means that if we want our kids to seek out these qualities in friends, they also need to have them. Of course, this means that if we want our kids to seek out these qualities in friends, they also need to have them. So what character qualities are important to seek out … and important to help grow in our kids? Here are five traits of a good friend:
1. Truthfulness is #1 in my list of traits of a good friend.
It’s important for our kids to know that they can trust what their friends say is true. Nothing hurts as much as knowing you’ve been lied to. Teach your children to look for friends who always tell the truth. Also, teach your kids to be truth-tellers. One way to do this is to remind them that being truthful or untruthful reflects their character. “If you tell a lie about the small things how can I—or a friend—believe you in the big things?” Also, be sure to praise your kids when you catch them telling the truth. Remember that what is praised is repeated.
Each of us likes to be treated with kindness. This is important when we look for the traits of a true friend. Kindness means treating people with respect and putting another person’s needs before your own. Kind friends make everything easier—from play to simple conversations. Teach your kids to be kind to others throughout the day, from their siblings to older men or women they meet at the grocery store. Point out to your children how much others appreciate when they are kind. Make sure to note how your child brings smiles to other’s faces.
3. Understanding differences
There are no two people alike, and friends need to know that different doesn’t mean bad. Friendship is not about picking friends who are the same as you but learning to understand and appreciate the differences of others. Find ways to help your child share their family and cultural background and traditions with their friends, and invite their friends to do the same. The more your child learns to appreciate other people the better prepared they will be to build all types of friendships throughout their lives.
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