One weekend my whole family traveled with me on a speaking trip to a homeschool conference. John drove and helped at the book table. I spoke. The kids attended workshops for their age groups, covered every inch of the exhibit hall, and made new friends.
After packing up all our things, we arrived back at home after midnight. We let the kids sleep in the following day, a Sunday, but that meant we missed church. Once we did get up and moving, we had a full house — grown kids and grandkids in addition to our regular household of eleven. It was great but exhausting.
And as I looked ahead to the week to come, I knew things would be getting harder, not easier.
Weary from the previous week, I woke up early Monday morning because my grandma was having back surgery. It turned out her back hadn’t healed as the doctor had hoped. Even though we were diligent about putting on her back brace whenever she sat up or stood, the break had gotten worse. Because of her age and osteoporosis, the doctor didn’t believe her back would heal on its own. Thus the surgery.
It was hard seeing her wheeled away, but a few hours later we received a good report. The surgery had gone well. Now she was back in the hospital room recovering, which meant I was trying to spend as much time up there as I could. Yet that didn’t mean things were slowing down at home.
Monday was also Anna’s eighteenth birthday, and we were planning to have a houseful of people that night, but I was so weary already that a celebration simply seemed like work, not fun. Add on a teen’s rebellion from the previous evening, an attitude I still had to deal with. The day was a heavy, busy one. Yet maybe that’s only because I was looking at my day with the wrong perspective.
The truth was, I had so much to be thankful about.
The previous week a family friend had sold us a car for much less than its value, and now my daughter would have a car for college. My mother had arrived recently to help with my grandmother. And let’s not forget that my grandmother’s surgery went well, even though she was eighty-eight years old.
It was so easy to get caught up in everything that needed to be fixed and done, but truthfully the root of my angst was my grumbling heart. I loved my big family, but inside I grumbled because I didn’t have time for myself.
I loved traveling to speak, but I grumbled because it was so much work, especially taking my family along.
I was very grateful to be in my forties and still have my grandmother around, but my heart already carried heaviness as I realized what the weeks ahead were going to look like as I cared for her after surgery.
I was also so quick to figure out the right consequences for my wayward teen that I didn’t pause to realize that her attitude and actions were a red flag, alerting me that there was a connection that needed to be made. What looked like outright rebellion was really…
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No More Grumbles
The Grumble Free Year was another instance when God spoke clearly to my heart that I needed to change. That we–as a family–needed to change. We were in a holding pattern of grumbling and complaining, dissatisfaction and discord. The kids couldn’t go a day with some type of unhappy comment. That’s when I knew we had to make a change. We had to find a way to get in line with what God desired for our family–grateful and thankful hearts.
It wasn’t always easy and the results weren’t immediate, but after a year of no grumbling, our life as a family has radically changed. Now, instead of finding fault and looking for excuses, we find joy in the journey–whether rain or sun. We have learned to laugh at our struggles and look for God in the small inconveniences. Day in and day out we are growing and becoming more thankful for all we have.
I’ve been looking forward to sharing this journey with you since the beginning and now its finally here. Get yours here: www.thegrumblefreeyear.com
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