Last year, I read Tricia’s book called Lead Your Family Like Jesus. In the book, Tricia asked this question: “If your child’s most vivid childhood memory was of today, what would he or she remember?”
This quote has stuck with me and challenged the way I spend my days.
Because here’s the truth. I’m afraid of what my kids are going to remember most about me.
I’m afraid that instead of remembering a mother who adored them, my kids are going to remember a mother who always had her iPhone in her hand. A mother who dropped whatever she was doing (not to come look at a picture or lego tower) but to check her text messages or emails. A mother who lived distracted instead of in the moment.
I don’t want to be remembered like that.
And twenty years from now, when I’m looking back on these days as a stay-at-home mom, I don’t want to regret the moments I missed.
As I look at my boys (now five and two) and realize they will both be in school full-time in just a few short years, I’m beginning to understand what everyone meant when they said time would go by fast.
They were right.
My five-year-old, who used to cry when I dropped him off at nursery at church, is now running joyfully into his preschool class (and sometimes not even looking back to wave goodbye).
My two-year-old, who used to cling to my legs and didn’t ever want to be put down, is now gaining independence and wants to do everything “by self.”
These days can be long, absolutely, but the years go by so fast.
These moments that are sometimes hard, sometimes exhausting, sometimes frustrating, are also the moments that make up our lives.
And I don’t want to miss them anymore.
I no longer want to be the mom . . .
with her phone in her hand all the time,
with a to-do list that trumps the needs of the moment,
with her mind on everything but her children.
Instead, I want to be the mom . . .
who misses a few phone calls and text messages because I’m busy with my kids,
who says “no” to other things so she can say “yes” to the best things,
who focuses on her children more than on her to-do list.
If I have to miss something, I don’t want it to be the moments. I don’t want it to be my kids.
Distracted living has taken too many moments already. Not anymore.
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About Lindsey Bell
Lindsey Bell is the author of Searching for Sanity, a new parenting devotional. She’s also a stay-at-home mother of two, minister’s wife, avid reader, and chocolate lover. You can find Lindsey online at any of the following locations:
About Searching for Sanity: Have you ever looked at your beloved children and wondered, what in the world am I doing? Why did God trust me—of all people—to raise them? Motherhood is the most difficult job many of us will ever take. Searching for Sanity offers moms an opportunity to take a breath, dig into the Word, and learn from parents of the past. In short devotions designed for busy moms, this book uses the parents of the Bible—both the good and the bad—to inspire today’s mothers.