When Your Child Makes a Costly Mistake
When it comes to parenting, what’s more important God or money? It may be easy to say “God” until our kids make a costly mistake . . . it’s then our true colors come out.
It happened to us just a year or so ago. Our teenage daughter was right behind us in her car, driving home from church, when we received a phone call. She’d been cresting a hill just five houses down when she hit the back of a parked car. Thankfully, she and her brother—who was in the car with her—didn’t get a scratch. The other car had some damage, but my daughter’s car was totaled. (Can you hear the dollar signs?)
John and I had sacrificed by giving her our old car instead of selling it or trading it in. Not only that, we’d just spent nearly a thousand dollars in engine repairs, and since we only had minimal insurance on it, it was all gone. Add to it, we had to buy another (used) car since we had two teen drivers who needed to get to school and work.
In Luke 16:15 Jesus said, “You like to appear righteous in public, but God knows your hearts.” John and I strive to be good, godly, loving, forgiving parents, but inside I wanted to rant. Our daughter should have been paying better attention. Her irresponsibility just robbed us of that money we’d worked so hard to save.
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Steps You Can Take
- When your child makes a mistake, take a moment to cool down and think about your reaction.
- Ask yourself what is really bothering you: money, inconvenience, etc.?
- Extend the same grace you received from Christ to your child.
- Explain why you are frustrated, but make sure to offer forgiveness, grace, and love.
- Ask your child what he/she learned in the process.
Dear Heavenly Father,
When those moments come where my children make costly mistakes, help me react in grace rather than anger. Help me see the child and not the dollar signs adding up. May I look for those teachable lessons, so we both walk away having learned an important lesson. Continue to mold me into the parent you would have me be and help my lead my family like Jesus!
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Resources You Might Like:
Lead Your Family Like Jesus by Ken Blanchard, Tricia Goyer, and Phil Hodges
Lead Your Family Like Jesus Group Experience Participant’s Guide by Ken Blanchard, Tricia Goyer, and Phil Hodges